Motivation

Is there any motivation that you give your kiddos or is it all fear?

Example: Your boss comes to you and tells you that he needs you to be on time or else you lose your job. You are working out of FEAR. What if your boss sat you down and asked why you were late every day. Found out what the problem was and told you why it was important. Which would you prefer?

Not many people I know like to have their job threatened, or anything else. So why would we think our kids are any different? Some things have worked and some have not.

The thing that has worked the best is 3x5 cards that we have hung up all over the house. It may look a little tacky, but the kids love it and it helps ALL of us focus on what is important. Our family chose to put up scriptures that remid us who is in charge and how we need to act. We also wrote down the fruits of the spirit and have them above each of the kids beds on the ceiling. It works well because we are not the ones telling them what to do, God is. Also, it teaches them that we as parents are there to help them get to where THEY want to be. It gives us a chance to remind them that we do not decide, they do. Our job is to just help out. We also have written on cards the words "serve others."

Keep in mind that at home is like practice for the world. What you say, and how you say it is what they will say and how they will say it when you are not there.

God is good ALL THE TIME! Serve others, give give give, use gentle and kind words. Single moms, there is hope! I am so blessed to have married a single mom. I got the good end of the deal. Step-dads, it is hard but not impossible. Keep your mind on the goal...which is what? My goal is to provide my kids with a loving family full of support.